Get Started with the HeartMastery Heart Buddy Network
We have found through years of learning and teaching HeartMastery that one of the most important aspects of the journey is to have Heart Buddies.
What is a heart buddy?
Heart Buddies are people, like you, living at the cutting edge of creating a heart based culture, who will practice deep heart communication processes with you and hold the image of your new empowered self as who you are when old patterns, blames, or complaints creep in.
Heart Buddies are a network of people all over the world who are practicing HeartMath tools on the front lines of life's challenges. There is tremendous value in meeting with a Heart Buddy regularly. We often find this becomes one of the most empowering aspects of the curriculum, as people really do discover the intelligence and empowerment of the heart is within them. Some heart buddies have become so close that they have travelled thousands of miles to meet one another in person!
We recommend that you find at least one Heart Buddy you can meet with weekly for a minimum of a half an hour on skype or on the phone as you move through the HeartMastery program. During that half hour we suggest that you refrain from making small talk or updating one another on the events of your day to day life, and instead each practice the following steps together:
- Pause at the beginning of your calls and focus your attention on the area around your heart.
- Breathe in through your heart, and out through your heart.
- Activate appreciation for one another and for something in your life that touches you with gratitude.
- Ask your heart to illuminate one topic that would be useful for you to share in a few sentences with yourheart buddy.
- When both of you are clear about what your intuition guides you to share, decide who will speak and who will listen first.
Listeners:
- Go to neutral by breathing in through your heart and out through your heart, releasing distractions, agendas, preconceived ideas, judgments, or the need to respond to what your buddy is saying. It can help to write down what you intend to share when it is your turn to speak so you are not thinking about that while trying to deep heart listen to your buddy.
- Breathe ease and appreciation in through your heart and out through your heart while your buddy is speaking. Imagine that your appreciation is radiating from your heart to your heart buddy while you listen for the essence of her/his communication beneath the words.
- When your heart buddy has finished communicating, reflect back the essence of what you heard.
- Then perception-check your understanding. Is there anything your buddy would like to add or to refine to your understanding of what you heard?
- Listen again with the same quality of appreciation, and continue reflecting back what you hear until your buddy feels heard and understood or until 15 minutes have passed. Then switch.
- Once your buddy feels understood by you, if there is something you feel moved to share from your heart you can ask your buddy if she/he would like to hear that from you. Then you can switch.
What Heart Buddies Chats are not:
They are not meant to be therapy sessions.
They are not meant to be emotional dumping sessions.
They are not time for idle chit-chat- you can always schedule extra time to get to know things about your Heart Buddy's life if you wish.
The benefits of engaging in the Heart Buddy Network are numerous: Many studies on longevity and well being show risk reduction and morbidity reduction for disease and early aging or death in cultures where there is a strong sense of community and bond between people. Having a neutral friend to talk with who is not directly involved in your day to day ups and downs, successes and challenges, and is there just to listen - not to fix- can help mirror and help you hear the clarity of your own heart intelligence, guidance, and intuition.
Having a heart buddy to remind you that you have tools to shift to the heart's perspective can help accelerate your process of transformation in the HeartMastery program. It can be a wonderful support to turn to in a crisis. You can discover the gift you are to others as you listen and share in a safe and contained environment where you won't be judged as you try new tools on for size.
It's fun!
What to look for in a Heart Buddy:
You speak the same language. You have access to talk through skype or phone - you can use instant messaging or chat but a lot is missed when you cannot hear the sonics of the person's voice. You see in their profile that they may have other shared interests with you, or a common experience. You live in close to the same time zone so scheduling times to connect is easier. You feel a heart intuitive connection with someone through their profile or picture.
By becoming a member of the HeartMastery Heart Buddy Network you are opening yourself to be contacted by those who wish to have you as a Heart Buddy. To choose a Heart Buddy in the program contact the person by their preferred contact method and introduce yourself. ENJOY!
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